Lord, I’m Tired of Always Being the One

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been the one holding things together. The one who reaches out first. The one who sends the texts, the cards, the gifts. The one who checks in, remembers birthdays, and makes sure the relationship stays alive.

But lately, I’ve felt tired. Not just physically—but emotionally, spiritually.Tired of being the only one trying.

Somewhere along the way, I started feeling like I didn’t want to be “the glue” anymore. I don’t want to chase people who wouldn’t notice if I stopped showing up. I don’t want to pour into relationships that feel one-sided. I caught myself thinking, “If you don’t reach out, I won’t either.” And then I wondered… is that wrong?

As a Christian, I know we’re called to love like Jesus, to treat others how we want to be treated—not how they treat us. But even Jesus had boundaries. He invited people in, but He didn’t force them to stay. He loved unconditionally, but He didn’t beg people to value Him.

So here I am—wrestling with what feels like a shift in my heart. I still want to love well. I still want to be kind. But I also want to rest. I don’t want to lose myself trying to keep everyone else close.

Maybe this is a season of release. Maybe God is teaching me that I don’t have to carry the weight of every connection. Maybe it's okay to stop forcing what was only meant for a season.

So I’m praying this now: Lord, help me to love with wisdom. Help me to stop overextending. Help me to find peace in letting go, when that’s what You’re asking. Help me love without losing myself.

Scripture for the Weary Heart:

• “Let us not grow weary of doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” — Galatians 6:9

• “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23

• “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28

There is Hope

If you’re tired too, you’re not alone. God sees your heart. He knows when you’ve given all you can. And He’s not asking you to carry relationships by yourself. He’s simply asking you to stay close to Him—to let Him fill you up again, to show you where to lean in and where to gently let go.

It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to pull back. It’s okay to let God be the glue instead of you.

You were never meant to carry it all. He’s got you—and He’s got them too.